This sounds like an unkind and heartless way of ministering to someone in grief, but the root of all grief is selfishness. The impact grief has on us and how often we experience that grief will dramatically diminish when we realize this; and in life's true trials, where grief is normal, loving others and God more than ourselves will bring us out of grief and into the light of God's comfort quicker.
From CD Set: How to Deal with Grief - 1032C